Category Archives: Personal

“You didn’t earn this”

Today was a really hectic day at work — it was pretty obvious we were struggling after one of our servers had to leave. I was the manager on duty, which means a lot of big decisions land on me. Do I call in another server? Do I put the restaurant on a wait? What can I do to help? Is this huge chaos my fault? Managing is all about making the tough decisions, and sometimes we make the wrong one.

Today’s missteps had me worried well before I clocked out. In the midst of the melee, I got every server’s favorite thing: a mean note on our receipt.

The table in question gave me an almost-20% tip, which was nice. Their note said, “You didn’t earn this, but we feel sorry for you. Try harder!”

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Exploring the “quirky, embattled server” trope

As a server, I have so many stories to tell, and as a writer, I can write them.

It sounds corny, but working as a server has opened my eyes to a lot of different societal issues just within my small, mostly vegetarian restaurant. I see a lot of inequity in a lot of different forms, but most of it revolves around people thinking that people who work in restaurants are unworthy of common decency and respect. That’s almost a “duh statement,” as one of my English professors would put it. The struggle between lowly service industry folk and anointed professional people is such a common trope that I don’t think it needs any more attention.

There’s always a certain narrative following a young female server. They’re putting themselves through school, or working to support their kids, and their pluckiness and “daring to dream” makes all their regulars love them and maybe leave them a huge tip. (Or fall in love with them, depending on what movie you’re watching.) In some way, we’re all just trying to put ourselves through, regardless of what job we work, but the same pluckiness doesn’t really apply to retail workers or bankers or writers or virtually another job. There’s almost a glorification of young female servers, but more of the trope, not of the person. There’s always a special interest story in some newspaper about how a girl saving money to go to college receives an exorbitant tip and freaks out because now she can buy books, or a young mother receiving enough cash to fund her baby’s birthday party. But for every feel-good story like that, there are hundreds upon hundreds of people stiffing their servers for some flimsy reason, or snapping their fingers or waving or shouting, or leaving a nasty Yelp review calling a server out by name.

Why this disconnect? Why do customers know that they could change a server’s life with generosity (or even just 20%), yet treat many servers like absolute dirt?

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Exploring the spectrum of Hillary’s likability

This week for Connect, I wrote about “Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox,” a book recently published by The Broad Side editor-in-chief, Joanne Bamberger and including writing from a local Savannah author, Lisa Solod. The book is a collection of essays that delve into the issue of Hillary’s likability. Anyone who’s paid even a lick of attention to current politics knows that everyone hates Hillary, and this book does a great job of trying to unpack why. I won’t get too much into the reasons why, because I think my article does a pretty good job (I hope!), but I’d like to address a point that I wasn’t able to include in my story.

Since Lisa and Joanne are both feminists who are familiar with politics, I wanted to talk about women’s involvement in politics, particularly among my own generation. I’ve heard a lot of women my age say that politics intimidate them and that they don’t want to get involved, but they decline to say why they don’t want to get involved. I find that curious and a little troublesome, so I wanted to ask these two ladies, who weren’t the least afraid to “get into politics,” their opinion on it. Lisa addressed the issue from the perspective of a woman trying to understand politics more, and Joanne addressed it from that of a woman trying to break into the political world.

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“The other mass shooting”

Today, there were two mass shootings that got attention, one first and one as an afterthought.

In San Bernardino, Ca., fourteen people were killed by three gunmen. In Savannah, Ga., where I live, one person was killed and three were injured by at least two gunmen.

After the initial terror of the California shootings, the Washington Post ran this story, calling Savannah “the other mass shooting.”

I have mixed feelings on this. I’m glad that Savannah’s skyrocketing crime rate is getting some national attention (seriously, guys, this town is riddled with crime), though I’m sad our town is getting attention for something like this. Mostly, though, I’m angry at the Post’s shoddy reporting when they say this:

The local media barely acknowledged the murder: One local television station covered it in three paragraphs.

And the world spun on.

Full disclosure: I am technically a member of the “local media” since I edit the listings for Connect. We do a pretty decent job of adding crime stories like this to the News Feed, which is why this claim first struck me. I decided to do a bit of independent research and rely on my trusty friend: time stamps.

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